For those of us who blog about our lives, there remains a tricky balance between revealing too much and not blogging about it at all. For everyone this decision is purely personal and based on whether they blog under an assumed name like I do (though many of my real life friends are aware of this blog) or blogging under their own name. I have nothing but great admiration for those that blog under their real names. I choose not to since I work online and know that potential employers will google me. There is only so much I want a potential future boss to know about me. This is why I also don’t Tweet under my full name and my Facebook is locked down. Still when I blog about my life, especially those not so great things in my life, I need to make the decision of how much to say because my real life friends will read it and they may feel hurt about what I write about. Also there is the question about how much of myself I want to put out in the public sphere for comment and criticism.
This is why I found Jess McAvoy’s blog post The Perils of Public Honesty so moving. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Jess a couple of times when we were both living in Australia and she would bring her amazing music up to Sydney. If you haven’t heard any of her stuff, just type her name into You Tube and then be prepared to go and buy all her albums. Seriously great stuff. Jess is now living the expat life over in Canada and has decided to take up blogging under her own name. Her post delves into the backlash one can experience when one blogs honestly about events happening in their lives. My heart breaks for her that she has had to go through this, especially when her posts have been vague about events in her life and she hasn’t named names. Still even a reference to events going on in your life seem to cause people to jump to conclusions and have their feelings hurt.
I’m curious about how those of you who blog about your lives handle this tricky subject of disclosure, especially when you blog about the not so good times. Do you choose not to blog about it at all? Do you blog about it in full detail? Do you just make vague references to things? Also, for those of you who blog under your real names, how do you handle family and loved ones reading your blog, especially if you do blog about contentious subjects? Has it caused any problems and made you regret about blogging about it?