I love living alone. Ever since I moved to Germany 18 months ago I have lived alone and I love it. That is not to say that I don’t ever want to live with someone ever again, but for this period of my life living alone is perfect.
I truly believe that everyone should live alone at least once in their life and the reasons are multi-faceted.
1. Space to Be Yourself
Living alone means having the opportunity to let loose the quirky side of you and doing the things you would never do if you shared a living space with someone else. Cooking breakfast at 2am, watching an entire TV series in one sitting, taking extra long indulgent baths, yelling at the TV and reading children’s stories aloud in a foreign language are all things that might get on a flatmate’s nerves but are more than perfectly acceptable when you live by yourself.
2. Space to sort out your own shit
I was going to call this section space for self-reflection which sounds much more dignified but seriously self-reflection, better known as sorting out your own shit, is anything but dignified. You really need your own space and solitude to sort yourself out and really look deep within yourself. Sure, you might be able to do this with a flatmate wandering around the apartment, but it is far more effective to do it in complete solitude. Only when you spend hours with only yourself as company can you truly judge if you are someone you can stand being around. You can properly judge what things need changing and what things need cultivating in your own personality. This is stuff you need to get sorted if you want future relationships to have a good chance of being successful (providing the other person has their own shit sorted out too).
3. Space for Self-Expression
The pure delight of living alone is that you get to choose everything that is in your house and put it exactly where you want with no compromising. You get the space and opportunity to work out your own sense of style and if that sense of style is just a massive bookshelf and a framed picture of an exploding TARDIS then that is perfectly fine (or at least that is what I’m currently telling myself).
4. Space to be Selfish
Living alone is all about being selfish. You don’t need to compromise with anyone or consider anyone else’s feelings when it comes to what goes on in your apartment when only you are there. It is so liberating, especially when you have lived with someone else for a long time. Having the space to be selfish, I have found, allows you to be selfless in other areas of your life. You can be a lot less selfish when you have a place to retreat to where you can be as selfish as you want.
Living alone does not mean having to be lonely. In fact, one can feel way more lonely living with the wrong person then they do living alone (trust me on this one). Living alone gives you the chance to be alone which is a whole different thing to being lonely. It gives you your very own space to be you and/or to work out who you are. Living alone means becoming self-reliant which is a trait I think is under valued. It gives you a chance to prove to yourself that you can hack it alone or a chance to show that you can’t. Again, good stuff to know about yourself especially if you are wanting to be in a relationship. I believe that everyone should live alone at least once in their life to find out who they really are.
Have you ever lived alone or are currently living alone now? What is your take on living alone? Do you love it or hate it?