I’ll admit straight out that I love Dan Savage. I don’t agree with everything he says, but the man speaks the, sometimes brutal, truth instead of sugar coating it like most other relationship columnists.
One of the things I really like about him is his Price of Admission theory which talks about how you have to ignore the little things you don’t like about your current lover in order to enjoy the things you do like.
Watching the above talk about the Price of Admission got me thinking about what are absolute deal breakers for me and what things are worth the Price of Admission. In my last relationship the Price of Admission got too high but it gave me a really good lesson in the things that matter to me in a relationship. I learnt that absolute deal breakers for me are: cheating or breaking of trust and selfishness. I will never put up with that shit again. However, I do fear that the Price of Admission for being in a relationship with me is just too damn high. I have some real annoying traits. I’m doing my best to work on some of them before flinging myself into another relationship. Whether I will accomplish that is debatable though.
However, I’m curious, what are absolute deal breakers for you, in terms of a long-term relationship and what are the things you are willing to put up as the Price of Admission? Feel free to talk hypothetically if you think your significant other might also read this blog. I don’t want to be responsible for causing any relationship discord.